8.20.2008

Roi.

Tuesday night at 11:44pm I learned that LeRoi Moore, saxophonist of the Dave Matthews Band, passed away.  I couldn't believe what I had heard.  The emotion I felt about a man I never met was a bit overwhelming.  It's amazing what kind of connection you can feel to someone you've never even spoken with.

I started listening to the Dave Matthews Band about 10 years ago while still in high school.  My first show was May 11, 1999 and since then I have seen the band perform 13 other times.  I went through what I jokingly call a "healthy obsession" my freshman and sophomore years of college.  I was really into collecting live shows on CD and would trade people on-line for shows they had and I wanted, and in return I'd send them something that I had in my collection that they were interested in.  I have  compiled well over 100 DMB CDs over the years and I can imagine that some people think that's a little nuts.  It really was just a hobby though.  For the record, yes, I have listened to every CD at least once.  My obsession slowly dwindled but I have continued to keep up-to-date with what's going on with the band.  Now defunct www.nancies.org, and the still flourishing www.antsmarching.org are fan sites that I check pretty regularly to see what songs that band has been playing in concert, what other projects the band members may be working on, and updates on the band's studio recordings.  Although I spend a lot less of my free time consumed by DMB I can say with certainty that the Charlottesville quintet has had a profound impact on my musical taste.

The thing I think I love most about the band is that they are a band in every true sense of the word.  Although their name prominently places Dave at the forefront I'm know every member of the group believes their strength is found in their unity.  The Dave Matthews Band is not the Dave Matthews Band without Dave, just like they're not the Dave Matthews Band without Stephan, Boyd, Carter, or LeRoi.  Each member provides such a distinct and vital facet of the bands unique sound that it's difficult to imagine them any other way than how I've known them the past 10 years.  I truly can't imagine the band going forward together from here, but they chose to play Tuesday night even after they learned of the terrible news.  

I have so many distinct memories of listening to the band's music.  The first time I intently listened to Under The Table And Dreaming and laid there in awe, the first time I heard "Big Eyed Fish", going to the post office on campus and picking up new shows that had just arrived in the mail, the often told "tracking down Bo and giving up the shirt on my back to receive front row tickets in Saratoga" story, anticipating new albums, playing "Say Goodbye" on the Branch jukebox every weekend in college, and of course the absolutely unbelievable 14 shows I've seen.          

My most recent show was on June 28, 2008 here in Virginia.  Little did we all know that night that it would be the last time LeRoi Moore would ever perform.  He was in an ATV accident the following day at his home in Charlottesville, VA.  He punctured his lung and was out indefinitely. The only real details that I have read are posted on the band's official website.  This is what was written:

08/19/2008

We are deeply saddened that LeRoi Moore, saxophonist and founding member of Dave Matthews Band, died unexpectedly Tuesday afternoon, August 19, 2008, at Hollywood Presbyterian Medical Center in Los Angeles from sudden complications stemming from his June ATV accident on his farm near Charlottesville, Virginia. LeRoi had recently returned to his Los Angeles home to begin an intensive physical rehabilitation program.

It is two nights later and I'm still in shock. I have chosen to mourn LeRoi's death by celebrating his music. I am dusting off some of those old CDs I haven't listened to in a while (now in digital form on my computer and iPod of course) and listening especially close for his parts on each of the songs. Here are a few photos from what nobody expected to be LeRoi's final show:


Greatest tailgating spot... EVER

Julie, Micah, Me, Amanda... Progress Baby!

LeRoi Moore, doing his thing

There is no doubt LeRoi Moore will be missed by many.  My thoughts go out to his family and the Dave Matthews Band.

8.04.2008

Brian and Melissa.

This past weekend Amanda and traveled to New Jersey for Brian and Melissa's wedding.  Brian was my roommate senior year of college and is most certainly one of the greatest guys I know. Him and Melissa are so perfect together and the whole weekend was incredible.  Here are the highlights...

After picking up Brian's life long friend Steve in Baltimore on the way up to NJ, we crashed at Nick and Paul's place Friday night.  We caught up for a while and heard the story of Nick and Paul's car crash earlier in the day.  Luckily everyone is okay, however Nick's Sentra was totaled. Everyone turned in pretty early but I just couldn't help staying up until 2am to watch Manny's first game as a Dodger.

Saturday was the rehearsal dinner up in Hackensack, NJ where Brian and Melissa live.  We got to check out the location and meet all the bridesmaids, most of whom I had met at least a couple times in the past.  Bri's Aunt Nancy walked us through the ceremony and we all had it down in no time.  We were off to the dinner part of the evening next.  We went to a nice italian place and had our own private room upstairs.  The 4 1/2 hour dinner was incredible.  They just kept brining us more food.  Every time we thought they were done they'd bring something else!  Hors d'oeuvres, pasta, chicken marsala, fresh fruit, ice cream, and of course... open bar dude! 

Me, Brian, Kohler, Nick, Hugo

Amanda and I at Dinner

Brian and Melissa receiving their wedding gift from THE Chris Berman

No one circles the wagons like... Melissa and Brian!!  Congrats!!

After an incredible dinner we headed back to the hotel and hung out late.  We just shot the shit, drank some brews, and reminisced about the good ol' days.  We also tried to make Bri as nervous as we could about what was going to happen in a few short hours but he didn't waiver.  He may have been the most excited dude I've ever known when it came to getting married.

The wedding on Sunday wasn't until 5pm so we had plenty of time to recover from the night before.  At around 3pm we traveled in style to the wedding and the fun began.

Chrysler 300 limo - sick

The groomsmen and the wedding singer before the festivities

Amanda arrived shortly after me, looking beautiful of course

Here we are just moments before Bri takes the plunge

A little explanation is going to be needed before this next photo.  So it was beautiful the whole weekend.  Well, except for 5 minutes at the beginning of the ceremony (of course).  Although the sun was shining, the rain decided to make an appearance.  It rained lightly for about 5 minutes and although everyone kept their cool you could see Melissa and the mothers of the bride and groom shooting looks every which way praying for the rain to stop.  Someone decided to shield Melissa and Brian with an umbrella (hence the photo), it worked wonderfully.  Brian asked me several weeks ago to do a reading from The Old Testament during the ceremony.  I was happy to do it and it ended up being much more appropriate than anyone could have imagined.  Literally SECONDS before the following line was read the rain cleared... "For lo, the winter is past, the rain is over and gone."  It elicited quite a bit of laughter and many sighs of relief.  They say rain on your wedding day is good luck and I have no doubt that someone was sending Brian and Melissa their wishes for lifetime of happiness.   


After a beautiful ceremony by the Rabbi and Priest we headed inside for one of the greatest parties ever.

Ice luge at the martini station - damn cool

I can't even say enough about the food.  No amount of racking my brain could begin to get me to remember everything that was served during the cocktail hour.  Check out Amanda's blog for a list of SOME of the cuisine.

A very, very, very small part of the spread

One of several ice sculptures

Damn good looking groomsmen ready to get their party on

Mr. and Mrs. Herzbrun being introduced for the first time

Cutting the cake
Okay, so I said I couldn't really write about all the wonderful food, but I HAVE to mention the desserts.  We headed back to the room where the cocktail hour took place and it was transformed into dessert heaven.  There were millions of tiny delicious treats everywhere.  Eclairs, fruit, pastries, chocolate mousse, an ice cream scooper man, a chocolate fountain, and of course wedding cake.  If you know me at all you know I made the best of it. 

Nick, Paul, and I housing our chocolate drenched treats

Uncle Steve at the fountain

All the groomsmen ready to take shots with the groom after dessert

The crazy Elmira College crew, Paul going commando in more than one way

At this point the open bar is making everyone as fun as possible

Nick and Amanda cuttin' a rug

Amanda fell in love with Hugo and all his "Latin beauty"

These Long Island ice teas did us very well after the wedding back at the hotel bar

The photos end there but the fun certainly did not.  A huge group of us, including Brian for a short time, headed down to the hotel pool and had a blast.  Hotel security wasn't wild about us finding a way into the pool at 1am, but Brian's mom sweet talked them into giving us a solid 45 minutes to enjoy ourselves.  It was a damn fun way to end the greatest wedding ever.  Congrats Brian and Melissa, you guys are the best!